“Truth, like gold, is to be obtained not by its growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold,”–Leo Tolstoy.
Truly how many times have you found yourself disappointed in people around you? I am a firm believer that we build our own castle and within its walls it is our responsibility to live in peace. The gates of your castle should not be made out of stone for those who love and care for you, however, the same gates should become a firm shield from those who decided to make a mess out of a castle that you built.
I’m talking about certain types of people who are toxic by default, by design, by their own darn fault; who refuse to see good in anything, giving you the feeling that you should not be enjoying life in the first place. ELIMINATE THOSE and start breathing again…Here they are:
The Negative Nancy.
Whenever you start a new job, there will always be those who do not want you to succeed because they never have and never will. These folks will go out of their way to spoil your perception about the new place before you even generated one. “Oh yeah, this one had had a divorce over this job”, “This place sucks a lot”, “Don’t expect to get help” and so on. These are the Negative Nancy’s to avoid. If these are in your friend’s circle, these people will do the same–never will want to go anywhere and will always find a reason why you should not go either. Do yourself a favor–start your elimination list.
The Jealous Girlfriend.
Good Lord, these folks are special…if for once you are happy because something super good happened to you and you shared with all your friends, this jealous type will always try to downgrade your experience no matter the cost. You got a nice car? You got engaged? Got a new awesome job? –You will be hearing the “Oh please” and the “I don’t really like it this much for me but on you it looks nice”, “He is not this cute anyways” types of speeches. Who needs this when you’re trying to be happy? Eliminate.
The Drama Diva.
There was a time in my life where I thought I have to help everyone who is having problems, be the go-to person. In my thirties now I understand and realize that some of the problems these people were having are the same problems that have been created over time by the very people who complain about them but refuse to make any changes. So guess what? Do you have someone around you who is constantly and forever on drama mode? It is the always “OMG” and “Can you believe this shit?” talk? Always and forever a crazy adventure and they don’t know why it is happening to them? Time to get the Drama out of your realm. Eliminate.
The Fakes & the Flakes.
These folks are the first ones to call you up to go drinking with but are the last ones to ever help you get a safe ride home or get you when you need them. The people who tell you they will be there for you at a certain time and then never show up, don’t answer their “read” text messages, come up with excuses ALL the time…Sounds familiar? You end up feeling stupid thinking something is wrong with you and in reality these folks are just Flakes. Eliminate.
The Fakes are the ones that say things behind your back and smile to your face pretending they are your friends. Eliminate. This one here is truly old school. While there are folks who might be good in nature inside and use the fake personality as a defense mechanism in the beginning, there are also those who are fake period for this is who they are. These people are dangerous because they are borderline psychopaths, the only difference is they don’t kill you physically; they murder you emotionally, manipulating your reality with zero remorse, so ELIMINATE.
There are many other personalities to avoid. It is easier said than done, but nevertheless, it is important to point those people out and configure yourself to have them around less and less if you cannot eliminate fully. You live only once. Surround yourself with folks who cry when you cry and laugh when you laugh, the people who comfort you in pain and applaud your glory.
Those people who are truly happy for you when you are successful are the very people who are in full content with themselves or just truly madly love you. Cherish them and give them the same in return.
As for the rest, start your list…